Let’s Break Out Of That Generational Dysfunction
You are worthy of changing your story despite the one you inherited, to create the healthy life you’ve dreamed of. It’s time to be the chain breaker, independent of your upbringing.
It’s okay if your mom didn’t love you.
Hi, I’m Phylis Mantelli
Or your next Mama mentor. I’m the author of the book Unmothered, Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me. I wrote this memoir in 2019 to share my story with all the women out there who feel like they are repeating their mother’s toxic patterns.
Why was I here if I wasn’t wanted? I didn’t want to hold her back from her life. Why do I have a mom who makes me feel like I’m a hardship for her? Why do I have a dad who is too busy to see me regularly? Why do other kids get to have two parents who dote on them endlessly, when the children take it for granted?- expect from Unmothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me
In 2022 I started The UnMothered Podcast for women to have a free resource to listen to on their own time. In addition to speaking events, I now offer women 1-on-1 coaching. My passion is to teach you that your life can differ from what you grew up in—helping you develop confident skills with your own family.
In my book I describe the roller-coaster journey of my life growing up with an alcoholic, narcissistic mother who was too unstable to care for me.
I started working with women before I even started to write a book. I saw that my story was necessary to share. In my memoir, I was often made to feel worthless as a daughter and had to take on the role of “mother to my mother”. After years of heartbreaking disappointments, I realized that the effect of our dysfunctional past was becoming my new "normal.” Eventually, I was able to break free from the pain of my past and God has given me the heart of a daughter who loved her mother unconditionally. While her habits and hurts didn’t change, I could change and create a better lifestyle for myself.
Although I help women of all ages, I’m extremely passionate about speaking to young women and helping them through their dysfunctional past.
I love to see the progression in a woman’s life, and the happiness on her face when she is finally being honest in her hard story and working to create healthier decisions for herself. My hope is that my work will plant seeds for the life you deserve and desire. Then you will begin to find the peace you need to move forward.
If You’ve Ever Felt …
Abandoned by your mom.
As if you never had a safe place to go to.
As if you are ready to exchange better habits and outcomes from the ones you were raised in.
If You Are...
Prepared to get truthful about your past
Ready for the healing process to begin.
Exhausted from trying to please toxic parents
If you answered yes to any of these, I can’t wait to work with you!
By working through my own trauma, I discovered how to build a solid relationship with my daughters that is different than the one I had with my mother.
Just a party of two over here.
My awesome younger daughter Dominique is my project manager, executive assistant, social media manager, girl Friday, my everything!
She is gold!
I couldn’t do any of this without her. I really mean that. Her creative mind skills blow me away, and she always keeps me on task! In her spare time, she posts about fashion and lifestyle on her Instagram and helps others design their websites using Squarespace. You can borrow her and hire her out, but you can’t have her! LOL
Get To Know Me
I have been happily married for 35 years to my best friend, Michael
I have two grown daughters, Dominique and Ariel, one son-in-law, and adorable, squishy grandchildren who are my total joy!
My favorite place to be is in the kitchen. We all love to eat! We also love to laugh. (I have a snarky sense of humor if you’re around me long enough you better learn how to banter jokes back and forth.) We will often break out in song and dance as a family!
Listen to The UnMothered Podcast
